What the books don’t tell you about newborns

You’ve read it all: How many bodysuits your baby needs, what music to play at night, the importance of routine… And yet, deep inside, you worry how ready you actually are for that parenting game. Once the scary bit – the giving birth part – is over, you’ll have to face something even more terrifying: Taking care of an infant. Yvonne Eve Walus gives it to us straight.

Q: What if I don’t love my baby?

  Look, you probably won’t, at first. I know, you’ve heard about that overwhelming rush of love you’ll feel upon seeing your newborn for the first time. Perhaps those who claim it misremember, or perhaps they’re the lucky ones, but reality is usually different. What many mothers feel right after giving birth is exhaustion coupled with relief that it’s finally over. When you hold the baby for the first time, you may feel like an actor without a script forced to play a role you haven’t studied. So give yourself a few days to bond with this little red and wrinkled human being, and you’ll soon realise that your baby is the most important thing in the entire world. If you still feel nothing after a week, tell your lead maternity carer. Sometimes just talking about it helps; other times you might need a support group of women who are in the same situation as you, or treatment for

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